"My husband hates me ..." This phrase sounds very often from the lips of women, whose family life is not as good as it would like. What to do? How to proceed?
Problem in the family
If people live together for a while, it is notthe news that there is monotony in their life. At first glance, everything is fine and wonderful, but when you look more closely, it is immediately noticeable that those feelings and that passion no longer exist. They seemed to have stayed somewhere in a past life.
To prevent this from happening, periodically you need to arrange some kind of "shake-up". As a result, relations will become, as before, and maybe even better.
In the same case, when neither of the spouses does anything, the feelings slowly disappear, and indifference comes to their place. But do not confuse it with hatred.
Pay attention to any changes
If in the family, however, such a situation happened, thenthe woman perceives it much closer and more painful. As soon as the wife notices any changes in her husband's attitude, more often she continues to pretend that everything has remained, as before, she is desired and loved. And so it can continue for a while. But the husband moves away more and more, and the wife just closes her eyes and, deceiving herself, plays an ideal marriage.
So do not in any way impossible.And all because of the fact that after a certain period this game is already called not a happy family, but its a parody. And when in this difficult period of complete inactivity, then the humility of the wife will not only return the feelings of her husband back, but, on the contrary, will further alienate him.
If you do not look at everything in the "pink glasses", andpay attention to even minor changes in attitude, and at the same time analyze, you can not only save your family, but also strengthen it. After all, when the spouse retreats, and his second half assiduously tries not to notice it, he will not lead to anything good. At some point it can be said with certainty that the husband hates his wife.
Factors
There are several factors that signal that there is a crack in the relationship.
If at the beginning of a married life everyone did everythingTogether, the husband always listened to the opinion of his wife, then he begins to make decisions and eliminate problems, not that without consulting, and without even sharing it with her. This is the first sign that his opinion does not matter to him.
A woman should pay attention to the one whose interests for the husband come first. If he is, then she will eventually understand that she does not already have that reliability and support that was in the beginning of the relationship.
If nit-picking and reproaches begin, followed by irritation and resentment, this is a sign that something needs to be changed, otherwise hatred may appear in your relationship soon.
If the husband does not respect his wife, but at the same time does not directly speak, but simply constantly criticizes her both as a woman, as a mother, and as a mistress, this must also be paid attention.
Particular importance can be given to this situation, when the spouses, when they are together, do not have common themes for talking. And about having a good laugh at the simplest anecdote, and there's nothing to say.
Do not ignore those moments when the husband does notwants to just touch his wife. If this factor is ignored in the beginning, then after a while, when the spouse shows the slightest caress, in addition to dislike and irritation, she will receive nothing else in return.
It also does not hurt to ask the question of why my beloved is not in a hurry to go home? It seems everything is done for his convenience, but he is still better to meet with friends after work than he comes before.
The change in the husband's relationship to his wife is clearly noticeable,when he begins to protect his personal space. First, a woman looks at it through her fingers, always finding some excuse, but rarely does anyone think about how things can end.
Lack of sex, despite plausible excuses, first of all, should push a woman to change something, otherwise the result can be deplorable.
You can often hear from the lips of a woman:"My husband hates me and insults me, not thinking about how offensive I am". But few people think that, perhaps, it is by its actions that provokes a man to such an attitude.
The problem with the former spouse
Even if the marriage breaks up, in many casesmen are not just unpleasant aftertaste, namely disgust. When a woman says: “Former husband hates me, and I do not understand why, what have I done?”
In such situations, there are many explanations. After all, each family and relationship are individual.
You can consider this option when in the familyat first, complete harmony and mutual understanding, but some time passes, and the wife, not feeling guilty for herself, and believing that she is right, is constantly dissatisfied with something, expresses not very pleasant things or does unpardonable acts. The husband takes it all calmly and without scandals, trying to find a logical excuse for everything. But so long can not be. Inside, this negative is accumulated and accumulated, but in the end, he looks at his wife not with that enamored and adoring look, but with full hatred.
And even after the divorce, the wife believes that she is the innocent "victim" who tried so hard. But as a result, only hatred flows from the ex-husband.
Another woman
Случаются и такие ситуации, когда супруга для her husband does everything possible and impossible to make him feel good and comfortable, but after a while he gets used to it and imagines that it is like that everywhere. He begins to change first secretly, and then openly, and a certain moment comes when he leaves the family.
A woman so devoted and so caringno matter what moral pain he brought to her, he lets go with a pure soul and wishes him only happiness, but he is well aware that even if he asks for a return, there will be no more way back.
To a man who lived with his new passiona short period, begins to come to understand what a treasure in the form of his ex-wife, he lost. But at the same time she thinks that if he knocks back at the door, she will gladly accept him back.
But when the wife refuses the former spouse of this, he is initially surprised at this turn, and then begins to be angry with her. Since it can not morally accept the fact.
A woman for her part cannot understand thataggression and hatred that the former pious are experiencing for her. Like and let go, and did not want evil, only refused to return ... And puzzles over the question: "Why does the ex-husband hate me?"
The answer in this situation is very simple. He does not hate his ex-wife, but from the realization that not all and not always can forgive, and human patience is not infinite.
When in family life comes the turning pointthe moment, and the woman feels her husband’s dislike and dislike for her, then she immediately panics, asking the same question about what to do next and how to act at the moment.
Analyzing situations
In order to choose further tactics of behavior and not make it even worse, first of all it is necessary to analyze what could have caused this.
The first thing that comes to mind is a loved oneanother woman appeared. But what does it have to do with it, if it seems that the husband hates his wife. When a man is not going to leave the family, he often changes his mistresses, but his half is not so easy to notice. Even if it happened, he had one answer - he wanted some variety.
Perhaps the attitude changed after the appearancethe child, since, basically, the mother is almost entirely focused on the baby. Spouse at this time experiencing a feeling of indignation and resentment from the fact that he no longer receives so much attention. Then he begins to attract him with aggression.
Хорошо и четко проанализировав создавшуюся the situation, the woman must draw conclusions for herself and determine whether she wants to continue living with this person. Or the best option would be a divorce, after which not immediately, but gradually she will find not only peace and tranquility, but also self-confidence, which she so lacked in family life.
And what about when a woman says that her husband hates me, but at the same time I love him and do not want to lose? You can try to somehow change the situation, putting to this a little strength and patience.
Если, например, супруга работает, а на семью у she doesn’t have as much time as she would like, and this is the reason for her husband’s displeasure, although he himself has a good salary, it is preferable for him that his wife stay at home and pay more attention to him than to her career. Then, if you want to save a marriage, one way out is to refuse to work.
Always be on top!
Often married women do the same thing.a mistake - they cease to follow themselves (they didn’t have time to wash their hair, then there was no time to go for a manicure), and this, in turn, repels the husband. Since he married always well-groomed of the fair sex. To prevent this from happening, one should always remember this and make it so that the spouse can not only admire, but also proudly demonstrate that this is his woman when someone else is looking in her direction.
It is necessary to constantly develop spiritually and intellectually in order for the husband to always be not only a beautiful picture, but also an interesting interlocutor.
It is necessary to try to do so that the spouse spent his free time more often nearby, and at the same time he did not have the desire to leave somewhere, for example, with friends for a beer.
One must always find many reasons to praise a husband, to say a gentle affectionate word to him.
Very often in family life it happens thatone of the partners does not know how to properly express their thoughts. Then the pair is very difficult to negotiate and explain. If such a flaw is present in a woman, then you need to express your thoughts more constructively, so that the husband understands what is being said and what exactly the wife wants to say, and does not remain again in thinking that something has been unsaid once again.
Часто к специалистам обращается обиженная супруга and declares: "My husband hates me." Psychology is a subtle science. And experts in this area agreed that in such cases the most important thing is to objectively analyze family relations and see the future prospects for their continuation.
Mutual hatred
What if my husband and I hate each other?The problem here is not that feelings are a little dulled or a habit has appeared. From the very beginning of family life, the couple did not have the emotional closeness behind love. And when the latter goes to the background a little, misunderstanding immediately appears. In this case, even the smallest little things lead to the fact that between the spouses there is growing discontent and alienation, which accumulate more and more each day. As a result, all that unites the couple disappears.
Когда женщина говорит своим подругам и близким:"My husband hates me," people give advice a wide variety. Most believe that you should speak frankly with your loved one. But to do this very carefully, so that he would not refuse to discuss his feelings, and the attempt itself did not turn into another scandal. For this you need to express yourself judiciously and calmly. It is desirable to achieve this (perhaps unpleasant) conversation. Then the result will be clear, the spouse will finally understand whether there is still any chance to save the family. Otherwise, you have to accept reality.
Everyone should be happy!
If a girl says: "My husband hates me."What should she do? Now is the time when the wife needs to remember that she is a woman and also has the right to personal happiness. Meaningless conversations and wasted forces in vain, except for the next disappointment and the collapse of hopes, will not bring anything good.
It is best to let go of the spouse, and not cling tohim and keep close. After all, the feeling that he needs his spouse, and that she, as before, is desired, will never return. And so, left alone, sooner or later, the woman will find complete peace of mind, perhaps she will have a desire to build a new relationship.
A conspiracy to help make a relationship with a spouse better
What if my husband hates? The plot will help.This is the method of solving the problem that many women trust. For the ceremony you will need your own wedding ring and a long birch splinter. What to do next? The lumen is inserted into the ring so that there is the same distance on both sides. Then the edges are burned, and the smoke is read in a conspiracy, the words of which are:
"Do not burn, fire, do not fall
My wedding rings,
My wedding rings.
Fell, and burn, and pain
The heart of a servant of God (name),
His white chest, his lungs and liver,
So that he could not live and breathe,
Not a day, not a minute to be without me
His wife, the servants of God (name).
How he wants to drive me away
So want to hug me.
Burn, torch, go smoke.
I send my friend melancholy,
Do not remove it, do not lime.
As said, and done.
I lock the lock, close it with the key.
Be my words for all ages
Not removed, not sklyaty, not crumpled,
Not killed and not detached.
Key, lock, tongue.
Amen. Amen. Amen".
Extinguish the fire is necessary only whenthe torch on both sides burns to the very ring. After that, the remaining candle need to put in the pocket of her husband. It is necessary to ensure that he is not lost. If this happens, then repeat the ceremony again.
Another conspiracy
In addition to the above rite, when the husband hateswife, what else can you do? To create the appearance that a woman very carefully listens to her spouse, while she looks him straight in the eyes, and says in her mind:
"Like me, the servant of God (name),
I do not want and can not live without arms and legs
So you do not live without me (name).
From now and forever. Amen".
Go to church
When the husband said that he hates his wife, in order not to succumb to a depressive state, it may be necessary to pray. So that the Lord would give her the strength and patience to survive all this and not do any stupid things.
Sometimes some mistresses do everything so that a husband hates his wife. They can spin intrigues, cheat a man. As a result, he really has such feelings for his rightful spouse.
There are women who do not believe in all sortsmagic plots and rites. What do they do? After the husband began to hate, it is best to go to church and confess. Perhaps the priest will help to restore faith in life and in yourself. It will push life to be invaluable, but it’s short and you have to enjoy it, rejoice in every day, and those family troubles are a test from God that he sent, knowing that the person will cope with it.
Let go
Если женщина говорит:“My husband hates me, it’s harder and harder to live with him every day,” then perhaps the best way out is to let him go. Indeed, in the end, two people will not suffer themselves, and will not make anyone suffer next to him.
Если женщина жалуется на жизнь и говорит:“My husband hates me, family relationships go nowhere, how will I be further? ...” We should not forget that there is no concrete answer to this question. And the decision to save the family or, on the contrary, you should not even try, the spouses themselves must accept.
It is not for nothing that there is such a saying “From love tohate one step and vice versa. The likelihood that, trying to save the marriage, the spouse will be able to interest his beloved, as at the beginning of the relationship, and perhaps more, is very high. Then married life will continue as a permanent honeymoon.
Conclusion
Now you know how to act a woman whofeels the estrangement of her husband. There are many options for solving this problem. You need to choose for yourself the most optimal. Remember that a woman should always be loved!
