Why do I have no friends at all?This question is tormented by many. Especially when left alone with some life difficulty. “I don’t even have anyone to share, not something to help. I’m like one in the whole world, I don’t have friends.” Loneliness is a terrible punishment, and therefore you need to strive for communication, and the more of it, the happier the person. But how to find friends? Passed that age when you could just come up and say: "Hi, I'm Masha, let's be friends!" We are afraid that they will misunderstand us, we are ashamed, we have already had time to give up on people more than once. And many have ceased to believe in the existence of friendship. But it's not right. You can not close in your "sink", you do not need to back up like a cancer. Do not become a lone wolf. Even they, if they could, said that it is much better to live in a flock! Therefore, forward to new acquaintances and opportunities. And how to make more friends, you will learn from this article.
Первое, что вам нужно сделать, это избавиться от pessimistic thoughts: "I have no friends, nobody needs me." Stop. Tell the world about yourself, and let them not think that you are a gray mass, let them hear about you. Try to attend social events. Get used to being in the mass of people. Do you have a hobby or hobby? If not, then you need to come up with. Sign up for fitness, dancing, crafts, a pool, any sporting activity, literary mugs - if only you like it. There you will meet many new friends. And common interests will help to get close. After all, a common lesson, this is a ready, inexhaustible topic for a friendly conversation, and there and the friendship is not far off.
How about charity?Do good deeds. Kindness attracts kindness. Ask for volunteers. There you will meet decent people. Such friends and acquaintances are a true gift from heaven. So you are looking for friends in the right place. In addition, joint work unites. Exactly what is needed.
If you have difficulty communicating, startmeet online. It is much easier. It is believed that when dealing with a new person is difficult to look into the eyes. The Internet solves this problem. Just do not take virtual communication for an alternative. This is only a stage of communication, to hone skills, start dating and continue his meeting in reality.
And now you have to deal with the psychological side of the issue. Often the lack of friends is due to psychological problems and on this occasion a few tips:
- Take goodwill as a rule.It is no secret that people love those who love them. But only this should not be intrusive. If you immediately pounce on a potential friend, he will run away from you faster than he knows what kind of person you are. Sincerity is important in communication, many people clearly calculate the falsehood. Need a friendly smile, lightness, sincere interest in the interlocutor. Ask him what he likes, what hobbies are in his life, listen more than speak. And in no case interrupt the interlocutor, have a conscience, listen to the end, and then speak for yourself.
- In no case can not be loaded newfamiliar with their problems. Remember, do not want the sad. You can share your problems only with a real, long-time friend, who cares what happens in your life. And with new buddies, it's better to stay on an optimistic wave, whatever happens.
- If you are invited to visit, do not thinkrefuse, it is said in you doubts. But they come to nothing. If the person is good, you can come to the new company. Anyway, you won’t guess how the day will be. But it is better to regret about what happened, than to suffer from what was not.
We are spoiled by bad people who offended andhumiliated us, were unfriendly. But this is their problem, you should not get hung up on bad experience. People are different. And so that you no longer get upset and don't think that “I have no friends here,” try to find contact with people, and remember that not all the doors are locked. You can definitely find the one that will be nice to enter. Sometimes you will remember the time when you sadly said: "I have no friends." But it will only be memories.
