Moms love and adore their children, knows about iteach. But there are situations when an intrusive thought keeps spinning in a woman's head: "I hate my child!" Why it happens, and what can be done about it?
If it seems to someone that such speeches are a fiction of psychologists, you should not be sure of this, because there are situations when women really think that they do not like their little ones.
Most often this happens in newly-born moms, and for the most part it is the result of a hormone jump. A hormone surge is a common phenomenon in the body of a woman who has just given birth.
Therefore, the idea of "I hate my child" more oftenmost of all, moms who suffer from postpartum depression. It seems to a woman that she is not yet ready to become a mother, that the child only does that, which deprives her of the possibility for self-realization, that the baby is unwanted and unnecessary.
Postpartum depression is also accompaniedconstant mom cry and strange at first glance speeches. Neighborhood can help to cope with this, and in more severe cases - professional psychologists. Often, after the cessation of such a state, a woman is simply ashamed of her behavior, and such thoughts no longer even arise.
Also thinking “hate my child” canwomen whose baby was not planned, or not her husband to support, or not enough finance. It may seem interesting to many people that maternal love often occurs a short time after the birth of a child. It is worth a little patience, and love for a little lump can come by itself.
There is a thought “I hate my child”also moms who have enough problem or active children who do not allow a woman to rest even in a dream. Then my mother can attend such thoughts only because she simply does not get enough sleep, hasn’t rested for a long time, and has simply become completely exhausted. And the fact of hatred can appear and disappear as fatigue increases or decreases.
In such a situation, helping a woman is easy enoughThis can be done by both next of kin and friend-girlfriend. It is necessary only sometimes to give the young mother full rest days so that she can miss her baby. Having a little rested from the child and everyday affairs, the woman will stop thinking about the fact that she can not love her baby.
Adolescence is hard enough forbaby time. And during this period, the son or daughter of the parents can cause very conflicting feelings, and sometimes even the thought "I hate my child." Frequent scandals, night parties and friends not suitable for him can cause not only silent indignation of parents, but also scandals on this issue. And what only in such a situation can not you say and do not think! Both sides start getting mad at each other so much that sometimes it seems that there is nothing between parents and children but hatred. An ordinary heart-to-heart talk will help resolve this situation, during which both parties will come to an agreement on one or another situation.
conclusions
Even in a situation where it seems to my mother thatshe does not love her baby, you should not allow such terrible thoughts as "I hate the child." It is better to concentrate on the fact that there is a desire to change such a situation, and this is the most important thing. Everyone knows that the power of thought does a lot. Therefore, tune in a positive way, you can change a lot and really love your child, no matter how harmful it is.
