Often, when dealing with a child, parents catch themselvesthat they do not know what to do. Depending on the situation, the form of education will look different. It is important to understand what you want from the child and what the child wants from you.
It's simple!If your child asks for something with perseverance, then this means that for some reason he needs it. In order to choose reasonable forms of education and methods of pedagogical influence on the child, it is important for parents to find out why. With this parental approach, the correct motivation of actions is formed, which subsequently will not allow the child to make a mistake at the moment when he is left without control and advice. Thus, the most important task is achieved: the parent transfers to the child the methods of self-education.
On the other hand, to form in hisBeloved treasure this most true motivation (you can call it conscience, there is such an opinion that conscience is our adviser), the parent also needs to have clear goals before him and
unobtrusively explain them to the child. In this case, the methods of raising children and the approach to them by parents will be prompted by their loving hearts.
Let's say your goal is to raise a happyperson Happy is a man who knows how to love. Because a person who knows how to love is usually loved by those around him as well. Principles of the world order, such as “nothing is taken from nowhere” and “love your neighbor as yourself” work here faithfully: to those who give their love, this love comes back without fail. And hence the happiness.
Поэтому, учим ребенка любить и быть счастливым.Ask for pens? We try to understand why. “Just a whim” is not an explanation. Because they can not just be capricious in principle, then their life experience will teach them with parental direct participation. There is no caprice at an early age, there are unmet needs. For example, the need for physical contact. We all
Besides, you know, on top everything looks completelyotherwise - not like the bottom, much more interesting. Depriving their child of this angle of view of the surrounding world, a parent deprives him of the opportunity to experience the world in all its beauty and diversity. In any case, this opportunity has been postponed for a long time.
But suppose a request to take the pensstill accompanied by a roar and some insanity. This suggests that the form of upbringing chosen by the parents earlier was not quite correct - that is, the elementary parents did not try to figure out what the child needed, and immediately took him in their arms to calm him down. This is natural, because it is very unpleasant when the crumb is torn. But you should not let your child get used to solving conflicts in this way; you need to figure out the essence of his desires.
So, "not to scream" - this is wrongparental motive is not an action that benefits our goal to raise a happy person. Take him in your arms, please, but first explain that Mommy-Daddy likes to take in her arms (just to take in her arms, and not just love) a cheerful child. Say it whenever he cries and asks for his hands. Speak cheerfully, persistently, with love. Ask to wipe away the tears, help him with this - give a handkerchief, a napkin, in a word, distract as soon as possible from his unconscious while making a decision with a roar to solicit the desired. Laugh, mewing or barking as you like, you better know what your child laughs from and what forms of education are required in this situation. And when he laughs, then take him in your arms. Joyfully and with love. Several such exercises, and he will learn how to wipe his tears before asking for his hands. Everyone will feel a little easier.
