Adolescence, transitional age,puberty - this state has many names, but as it is not called, and to abandon the fact that during this period the psychology of a teenager is built is meaningless. Many parents deny the fact that their ten-year-old little child begins to grow up and needs close attention. Indeed, the period of breaking of life, mental and sexual-physical development begins on average at 10 years and lasts until 18 years, but psychologists still can not come to a common opinion what age to call adolescent, and what youth. After all, this age, dragging on for several years, is also divided into several stages in turn. In particular, the first stage when a child ceases to consider himself a child, and the second, when a teenager starts to equate himself with an adult, and, consequently, sets new standards of behavior for himself, which, in his opinion, correspond to the behavior of an adult person. In this period, it is very important for parents not to distance themselves from the adolescent, but on the contrary to take an active part in shaping his worldview and social position in society. It is important to take his position as an adult and communicate with him on an equal footing, and not to oppress his interests, arguing that he is a child and can not make his own decisions. The age-related psychology of the adolescent is such that during the period of growing up the awareness of one's self is formed and logical and abstract thinking develops actively, so there is the so-called deviant behavior when the adolescent has "authorities", whose behavior he considers the standard of adult and seeks to imitate him. In this case, the ideal for the development of personality will be the direction of the adolescent in the right direction, in order to form adequate correct norms of behavior.
There is such a term as "psychology of the difficult"Many people say that at this age children become uncontrollable, capricious and aggressive, I will not agree with this, I do not quite agree." This behavior is manifested in the child only with the wrong approach to the education of a teenager in the family, the school and the wrong At this age, socialization - the realization of oneself as a person with their own needs and personal traits - is extremely necessary and important for the child.If parents and others do not support the adolescent's desire for self-reliance he takes it hostile and begins to seek support elsewhere, which is fraught with the appearance of wrong goals, motivations, and as a result leads to the formation of inadequate behavior.
The psychology of the adolescent is focused on the emergencetheir goals in life, they strive to set their goals and achieve them with all their might, adolescents differ in purposefulness and assertiveness, which in no case can not be extinguished, but one can only maintain and develop these traits. But, unfortunately, in most cases in our families this is perceived as a protest, as a child's challenge to an adult and begins an active suppression of all teenage psychological neoplasms by parents.
The psychology of the adolescent is complex and ambiguous, andeach person it passes in different ways, and the duration of this period is determined by many factors, including family, school, teachers, society, psychologists, the media and much more. However, do not forget that through this, each of us passed, and everyone remembers how important it is to get support during this period from the closest ones - your family. So listen to your teenage children and support them.
