Perhaps the expression "pregnant at 16" alreadysuggests, if not fear, then at least a familiar feeling - somewhere we heard about it. Yes, it is about this problem that the media are pressing against each other. In other words, it is called teenage pregnancy, early and so on. But no matter how we call this phenomenon, it will not be better, and the situation, alas, will not change for the better.
It may, of course, be early to sound the alarm, sincepregnant women at the age of 16, and even more so, at 15-14 - the exception rather than the rule, but, as experts say, their number is growing. Slowly, but, alas, this is already a pattern. Moms are getting younger, the age of women in labor is decreasing.
It should be remembered that if a girl, yes almosta girl, pregnant at 16 years old, this pregnancy is not just the result of unprotected intercourse. Not. The reasons lie much deeper and they are more tragic.
Consider the main ones.Firstly, pregnancy can happen in families where there is increased guardianship in particular favor. She smothers and prevents live. And nowhere from this parental care can not go. Everything seems to be good: the girl is full, shod and can live in prosperity, but she is not perceived as an adult and does not speak on an equal footing. And all from a position - we are parents and we know better. So get a case: pregnant at 16, like a cry for help, as proof of adulthood and shock therapy for those who do not want to hear the daughter of their parents. But this is not the only reason, but only "one of."
Early pregnancy may simply occur due tolack of adolescent reliable information. And again the strings lead to the parents. They did not explain where the children come from, did not tell about contraceptives, did not teach us to strive first of all for social and psychological maturity, and only then take responsibility and enter into relationships. These notorious "not" lead in the end to the fact that we have: "I am 16 years old, I am pregnant." And then tears, reproaches and even attempts of a suicide begin. Alas, pregnancy is a great stress even for trained parents, but what can we say when for a teenager she is like a bolt from the blue? And in this case, the girl needs support more than ever.
What are the causes of such early pregnancies?And they are simple and at the same time terrible. It could be rape. Yes, we live in a society where a woman, especially a young one, is a desirable object for committing violence. Practically in any Russian city it is worth (more precisely, it is not necessary) to leave the house after 21-22 hours, as the probability of being robbed, raped, crippled increases many times. Alas, the experts and here do not bode us any good. Crime is gaining momentum and the police cannot stop it, even after loudly renaming and reform.
But here again, the reason is to look for in parents- why the daughter was at this time outside the parental home? Maybe it would be easier for her not to be at home, to run away to friends or just wander along the street than to be under the same roof with her parents? Of course, rape can happen at home, usually it happens when people with criminal tendencies have access to the house itself, of course, with the consent of adults.
So, what happens in this case?Yes, the conclusion is obvious. If your daughter is pregnant at 16 or earlier, which also happens more often, all threads, whatever one may say, are drawn to their parents. And you need to educate and be angry with yourself. For the fact that contact with the child, alas, was lost. Or it was not at all.
Но наступившая беременность не означает, что все over and lost. In the end, life goes on anyway. If the first bells were not noticed by the parents, then the shock therapy described above is carried out.
Look for contact with the child, do not lose it, ask what your child lives, but not from a position of control and a guardian, but from a position of a friend and an equal.
