Many have noticed that schoolgirls in middle classeslook older than their peers. Parents of boys especially often pay attention to this - some perceive it calmly, while others begin to worry: does my child have a delay in sexual development? Vulnerability is increasing every day: now and all the friends of the son seem taller and more courageous, the girlfriends are real girls, and their own blood is still the same kid as he was a year or two ago.
There is no reason for concern - everyonevegetable your time! The fact is that the puberty of boys "starts" a couple of years later than their girlfriends, and it does not have a clear time frame. The first signs of sexual maturation can be found in a boy at 12 and 13 years old, but even the onset of puberty (puberty) at 15 is not a deviation. First, it is difficult to observe this process from the outside, because during this period the boys become terribly shy and secretive, and are not eager to demonstrate to the parents the changes taking place with their body. Secondly, the position of an outside observer is far from being the most correct, because the teenager himself is very worried about whether everything goes with him as it should, and, perhaps, needs advice or at least encouragement. So it is very important to establish a relationship of trust with the son ahead of time and to be ready at any moment to show good knowledge and possession of such a “subject” not from the school curriculum as the sexual education of boys.
As a rule, dad must remember why and howit began. First, the testicles and scrotum slightly increase in size, then the penis begins to “catch up”, and the first hairs grow on the pubis and armpits. Perhaps at this moment on the desk of your boyfriend will be a ruler, which previously rarely left the darkness of the drawer or briefcase, and there is nothing strange or scary about it. Although he, and you - all the more, these measurements will not give anything, because men do not have an organ with more individual characteristics than the penis. If you casually hint about this son, perhaps, it will save him from the extra excitement that accompany puberty boys.
Modern information space andThe "knowledge" of the younger generation saves parents from explaining such notions as erection or masturbation. But if such a phenomenon as wet dreams (first night ejaculation), you give one of the conversations with your son, it will not be superfluous. As it is impossible to predict when this will happen, it is better to talk about water emissions earlier - at 10-11 years of age. Let it be an unattractive, easy story in general: there is, they say, such a stage in the life of every man, it will happen to you, take it calmly - it means that you are growing up. In general, fewer terms, details! It is useful for you to read the medical encyclopedia, but it is not at all necessary to literally retell it to your offspring. It is enough for him if you briefly describe to him what puberty is in men. It is important to put the main idea in his ears: it happens to everyone, so will he, and a year earlier or a year later it does not matter. Let him take his growing up as a natural process and not try to speed it up.
A good help in this matter isthe fact that puberty boys are not limited to "the fact that below the belt." At the same time, bones and muscles are actively growing, muscles are clearer, hair appears on the face, the voice “breaks”. The boy gradually becomes a young man, a man. In dealing with him, do not separate some changes from others, do not “dwell on” one thing. Speaking of shaving, touch on the subject of genital hygiene. Noting how he matured, talk about relationships with girls. No need to force - tell about contraception next time. Do not demonize masturbation, but you can make it clear that the excitement is well removed and sports. In general, be creative and tactful.
Резюмируя, можно выдвинуть имеющий право на жизнь the thesis that puberty of boys is much easier psychologically, both for the son and for the parents, if there is a good relationship of trust between them.
