We are all human, all are human, all are different, andeveryone has his own idea of Good, Justice and other moral and ethical values. As well as their ideals, which are equal, which are guided in their actions. Of course, the absolute majority cannot be pleased, and it would be foolish to try to adjust to the general requirements: it is so easy to lose yourself, your own individuality. So, it is necessary in this matter, on the one hand, to remain true to oneself, and on the other, to try to meet the needs and demands of the reference group to which you belong, without going beyond the traditional moral standards verified by centuries.
Be quite good
The first lessons of how to become a good personwe get in childhood. Helping the elders and not offending the younger ones, protecting the weak and not giving in to the strong, trying to defeat the argument with logic, mind, not fists, telling the truth, not lying to salvation, being responsible for your actions and not hiding behind anyone’s backs ... Do not be greedy , to share the last with a friend or even a stranger, not to lash out ... To be kind to animals ... To be able to stand up for yourself, for your beliefs ... The list can be continued for a long time, it will be correct, but probably cover all the nuances of how to become a good person, just impossible. Let us recall the intense search for the meaning of life by Leo Nikolayevich Tolstoy and his heroes, their passionate desire to “be quite good”, their throwing, moral quests, falls and rises. And the heroes of Dostoevsky? Anyway, all the Russian and world classics, the best examples of fiction give us vivid examples of intense spiritual work. And therefore one thing is clear: without volitional efforts, without the fact that “the soul must work”, we will never understand how to become a good person.
And what does volitional effort mean?It seems that this is the ability to sacrifice our interests, large or small, for the interests of another. Give in where you want to insist on your own. Donate what you want to keep yourself. Take on the part of the labor or duties of another. Help with advice or deed. In the end, to accomplish the feat in the name of someone or something. After all, heroism, courage, unselfishness are the highest embodiments of the concept of “good,” the moral imperative that people have followed in extreme situations.
Examples of how to become a good person, wewe see very often, and it is not necessary to accomplish the feat in everyday life. To be competent in some issues and use it for the benefit of friends, acquaintances, relatives. To be a caring son or daughter in relation to aging parents, a devoted wife or husband - to your half. Respectful of subordinates, if you go to the chiefs, and do not fawn on the higher ranks. Maintaining integrity primarily in relation to yourself - also means to become a man. Do not compromise the moral principles that are considered decisive.
And finally, the most important thing.As already mentioned, “good” is a subjective concept. A person may be considered a scoundrel in society, but he will be good for someone who has helped - whether he is a ruble, a service, etc. Enlightened personalities such as Christ, Buddha, or the wise teachers of Osho, the Dalai Lama, are extremely few, in millions. As well as a small group of those who are engaged in charity from the heart, at the call of the heart, as Mother Teresa or Lady Diana did. And they did not become the absolutes of virtue for all mankind. Consequently, the question of how to become a man is not only from the category of eternal, philosophical, but also, let's say, narrow-group. Its “comme il faut” exists in each individual reference environment. Not all "outsiders" can adapt to it, and this is not necessary.
The main thing is probably not to be indifferent, complacent, not to live according to the principle “my hut is on the edge.” To try as far as possible and to realize their positive potential.
