"Love will inadvertently descend ...", - is sung in the oldthe song. Indeed, she comes when she is “not at all expecting.” No one can fall in love (as well as fall out of love) on their own will or according to a plan: it always happens suddenly, like a lightning strike. Sometimes the feeling is so exciting that all the usual life goes to the secondary plan, and the person already thinks like this: “What should I do? I fell in love without a mind! "It seems that love is something that should be rejoiced, because it is considered to be a gift from God. It is not always the case, because sometimes it begins to bring not joy and happiness, but only pain and suffering. So what to do, if you fell in love "to death"?
Lightning strike
This is how they often describe the moment of appearance.love those who survived love at first sight. Oddly enough, but this suddenness is more characteristic of men. They are able to fall in love with a girl in one minute. It should be noted that their feelings pass faster than women.
It is noticed that to attract a guy in a girl can evena minor trifle: shoes with heels, a special model of a haircut, the color of lipstick or dress, look, gait. Men are very attentive to such details and it is on them that they, as a rule, "sink down." This is such a phenomenon, and it is inherent in the male part of the population. In other words, a guy who sees a girl in a miniskirt on the street can fall in love with her legs or walk. At the same time, the strength of the feeling that comes can be so great that he will think: “Everything, I fell in love“ to death ”.”
Torments of love
What can a macho do, pierced by such a powerful feeling? Of course, meet, and if a girl does not mind, then develop and build relationships.
If a guy fell in love with a girl, then all the obstacles andno obstacles to him. Men are creatures no less sensitive and vulnerable than women. Therefore, they are so painfully perceived when the girl ignores the courtship or refuses at all. Well, when love is mutual, but it does not happen very often. Therefore, the torments of love have to fully feel the one who does not receive reciprocity.
Dangerous age
As a rule, such strong feelings are experienced.people at a very young age. The love that they feel lives as if by itself, because, due to the immaturity of their psyche, they still cannot fully control the emotions of the mind. Therefore, youthful love is sometimes so tragic and painful. No wonder that at this age guys most often commit suicide because of unrequited love.
How to act to achieve reciprocity?
Imagine that a young man fell in love witha girl. What should he do to be able to be with her? Much depends on the girl herself. That is, on whether she is free, whether she has a desire to build a relationship, how old she is, who she lives with, whether she knows this guy at all and is aware of his feelings. In fact, very much depends on such moments in the future development of the novel.
After all, if it turns out that she is already with someonemeets or she simply does not like the new admirer, then what should the one who fell in love with her without memory? It remains to hope that she will either part with her beau, or pay attention to another applicant. To make this happen, the latter will have to try.
It will be required in every possible way to achieve the chosen one,give her surprises, invite her to places she loves to be. We need to know what she lives with, what she likes to do, what food she prefers, what movies and music she watches and listens to. Girls love when guys are interested not only in their external data, but also in what is hidden behind them. So you have to act if you fell in love, like a child.
Waiting for an answer
In the meantime, there is no reciprocity, will have a loversurvive all the "charms" of unrequited love. To wait was not so painful, you just need to transfer your focus to another object. For example, you can find a lesson for the soul, to renew the hobby, if it was abandoned. Sports help, with any help. They will not only be beneficial in terms of physical improvement of the body, but also give confidence and cheerfulness. And these results never hurt anyone.
Любовь должна рождать только самые лучшие чувства and aspirations. No wonder they say that it makes a person better, kinder, softer, more tender, more heartily. In order to achieve a girl whom he fell in love with at first sight, sometimes you need to take non-standard steps. Women of these men love very much: they immediately understand that everything is done for their sake, and who can resist beautiful acts? Previously, the knights fought to death in duels, climbed into the palace windows on the smooth sheer walls, went to military campaigns for the beautiful ladies.
So if you fell in love with a woman, so much so thatlost sleep and peace, the only comfort will be the opportunity to be with her. And whether it will turn out or not depends solely on the lover’s “Pierrot”. Rather, from his perseverance (in the framework of decency, of course), fantasy, courage and depth of feeling. Women love stubborn men and usually surrender "at the mercy of the winner."
She she and she
Well, when strong love catches uplonely young man. This is natural, normal and fits perfectly into the concept of procreation. Such a guy can be congratulated and said that he is lucky. Not everyone during life can experience the power of love.
But there are other situations, not suchjoyful, at least for one side. It is about when a neodino man fell in love with another woman. On the one hand, for him it is joy, but on the other - a great torment.
After all, he understands that in this way he betrays bothhis "official" woman, and the lady of the heart. Men, being in this position, are aware that they hurt all the participants of this love triangle.
Of course, the one you betrayed is the worst.She is no longer loved, unwilling, her place in the heart of a man is occupied by a rival. In the meantime, once a dear woman suffers from uncertainty and betrayal, her beloved man thinks: “What should I do? I fell in love, but I'm married! ”
Signs of love
The dilemma is not easy.It affects the fate of several people. Unfortunately, some and fortunately for others, almost all married men for the duration of their marriage at least once, but fall in love with women on the side. Some explain this loss of feelings for the faithful wife, others that they simply "covered" at the sight of a beautiful, sexy girl. Interestingly, even 40-year-old, wise men with experience and life are not able to resist this storm of emotions.
Scientists have long proved that falling in loveespecially bright, lightning, is nothing but the result of our biochemical processes that occur in the brain. For this reason, a person is simply unable to control what is going on with him. He loses sleep, appetite, he is not interested in those things that have long been part of his life. So, the work goes aside, the man throws his hobby, does not pay attention to his wife. And only one thought pulses in my head: “What should I do? I fell in love ... What if it's serious? "
Leave or stay
In such a situation, giving advice is a matter.ungrateful. No one ever, firstly, listens to them, and secondly, if someone follows them, then he also blames the counselor for all the troubles that have happened to him.
If we proceed purely from considerations of decency andelementary cleanliness, then a non-free man who fell in love with another woman, or you need to leave for her (if these are serious feelings, of course), or love her exclusively platonically. This could be the answer to the question: “What should I do? I fell in love, but I'm married! ”
Love without joy
Even if a man fell in love with a girlplatonic, but at the same time continues to live with his wife. Is it fair to him? Somehow not. It turns out that a man must step on the throat of his own song because of the fear of destroying his family or because of moral principles. To share a bed, a life with one, but thoughts to be with another? For a long time no one will survive.
Что же делать, если измена неприемлема, а жить the old way becomes unbearable? There are few options, and you need to choose the most painless for all interested parties. It is necessary to understand that by the dictates of the mind to stop loving this, it will not work out right away. Therefore, you just need to wait out, so to speak, the active phase of this period. It will last several months, maybe a year. Everything will end faster if you do not see the one because of which the whole life almost collapsed.
То есть надо сделать все, чтобы не встречаться с this woman, not to be in her "habitat". If this is a colleague, then communication should be reduced to zero, and even then, only on professional topics. Minimizing contact really helps a lot. But there is still such a thing as thoughts. They sometimes appear in the head without demand, and it is difficult to get rid of them. When once again you want to think about this girl, then you need to accustom yourself to immediately switch your thinking process to another topic. Doing so from time to time, you can completely get rid of unwanted memories, images and other things that do not completely cope with love obsession.
Will pass and it
At first it will seem that there is no strength to live without her,that it is necessary to go to her, that she is the one and only, for the sake of which it is worth risking, leaving behind all the old. However, these thoughts will soon cease to appear, as that pressing, oppressive feeling, which has not allowed to live in peace in recent months, will gradually pass away.
Soon, very soon biochemical processesstop wandering in the brain, and all the experiences, anguish and suffering will go to "no." This love can live forever, but love - just from a year to 3 years. You just need to be patient, but do not waste your time. Why waste it on meaningless experiences? It will be more productive to plunge into some new business, focus on your career, you can go on a trip. By the way, long journeys are the best medicine for heart pangs.
External assistance
There are also very difficult cases when a person is notable to cope with his obsession on their own. Someone goes for help to friends, and someone to a psychologist. Often, these experts hear in their offices the question: “Tell me, what should I do? I fell in love, but I can't be with this girl yet. ”
Patients with this problem are not uncommon.And they all want one thing - to hear from a specialist some simple and effective advice that would help them cope with this difficult situation. Of course, hoping that will be so is just ridiculous. The psychologist will undoubtedly help to get rid of dependence (and a strong love is a dependence on another person), but it will take time, because it requires an integrated approach. However, we must understand that in the end, no one but the person himself can help him.
Love without memory. What to do with her?
Мы часто слышим в жизни и от экранных героев:"Everything, guys, saw and fell in love with her forever." What do young people do in such cases? Whoever is wiser and bolder - immediately come up and get acquainted. Some do not hesitate and pass or pass on. If you think about this girl a few days, then begin to look for her around the city. The most desperate can hang ads on pillars with her signs: describing the exterior and the place where the meeting took place. Requests to help find her, because he fell in love without memory. And someone keeps this romantic memory and lives on.
If the acquaintance took place, it is not a fact that itBe sure to go into some other, important stage. Moreover, in close communication, a girl may not make such an impression as when she was first met. And this is not uncommon. If you fall in love with some image, you can be very disappointed in what the girl really is. Therefore, of course, you need to communicate in order to understand whether yours is a person or not. After all, sometimes a beautiful face, eyes or legs does not guarantee that everything else will be just as beautiful (human qualities are meant).
Long live love!
Влюбляться нужно, говорят, это полезно для health, prolongs life and makes it more filled, colorful and meaningful. The main thing is not to lose yourself in love, because in this format it turns the fate of a person into a nightmare. And this is no longer love, but addiction, which cannot bring joy and creativity.
Love at first sight does not guaranteelove In order not to miss your chance, you need to get to know the girl closer. And you can just go further: let this bright meeting remain in your memory forever.
