Ни в одном языке нет стольких названий для relatives, as in Russian. About banal father-in-law, mother-in-law, virgins and son-in-law are not even worth talking about, everyone knows who it is. But did you know, for example, that the husbands of two sisters are in-laws to each other, and the wives of two brothers — yatrovka? Interestingly, in the Russian language there are very apt and caustic proverbs and sayings that reflect uneasy relationships within the family. For example: “city kums are haughty”, “zhurliva, that mother-in-law”, “mother-in-law has toschi”.
But today we will focus on one relative -this is the husband's sister, or sister-in-law. Do you know how long they talked about her husband's sister? The sister-in-law is a ominous And they also sentenced: “Zolovushkin speeches are worthless”. What is this relative deserved this attitude?
Sister husband and wife almost always folduneasy relationship. This is the same well-known conflict as in the relationship “mother-in-law - son-in-law” or “mother-in-law - daughter-in-law”. In this case, the suffering side usually consider themselves wives: they are convinced that the sister-in-law allow themselves to interfere in the personal life of the spouses, in their daily life, in the sphere of raising children and maintaining the family budget. At the same time, the sister-in-law themselves often wonder: they sincerely believe that they have a full right to do so. That is why wives usually reduce communication with sister-in-law to a minimum, or at least try to do it. And even the need to congratulate her husband's sister once or twice a year turns into a real problem, conflicts are so acute.
The reason for this situation is a banal misunderstanding.parties, unwillingness to accept each other’s position. And the injured party is usually the husband. Let's try to understand what underlies this misunderstanding.
Husband's sister can relate to her brotherdifferently. First, she can associate herself with her mother (an older sister or simply more mature as a person). In this case, she will treat her brother affectionately and condescendingly and allow herself to interfere in his life. The extent of this intervention will depend on her tact and on how much she is allowed to do it. Also, the husband's sister can project the image of the father on his brother, trying on him the role of protector. Consequently, she will claim her rights to participate in her life, while not at all taking into account his changed marital status. Often, such a situation in the wife is associated with sheer egoism, but sometimes the sister-in-law just did not have time to realize all the changes. Another problem with this situation is that the husband’s sister continues to use his things and money, regardless of his brother’s wife. Remember, as they said - "the sister-in-law". It’s about this side of the question that the husband’s sister still considers that he has the right to use his brother’s money (his apartment, car, cottage, etc.) as his own things. Her position is simple to understand: she is used to doing it, and is not going to change her habits for the sake of some “outsider” woman.
The most neutral option is friendlyrelationship between sister and brother. But even in this case conflicts arise, most often due to banal jealousy. Moreover, she can be jealous of her husband’s sister to a new woman in her brother’s life, and her husband’s wife to relatives in general and to her sister-in-law in particular.
Is there a way out of this situation?I would like to say that there is, but this does not quite correspond to reality. In order to avoid such a development of events, it is necessary that both parties to the conflict abstract from emotions, which is almost impossible. And yet you should at least try to take a step towards each other: talk, try to understand, identify the most critical moments. This must be done, otherwise one of two things will happen: either one woman will lose her husband, or the other - a brother.
